Changes Comments

Here is what others who have read my Changes essay have thought about it.

Seventeen years of celibacy to avoid the spiritual and physical problems you describe. I was beginning to have my doubts. Thank-you for affirming me in my choice, even if that isn't what you meant to do.
Steve <>
Washington, DC USA - Sunday, May 30, 2004 at 21:52:15 (PDT)

Folks, Just another notice. Please, no SPAM. If you've ads to place then place them elsewhere, not here. Thanks, Madoc
Madoc <>
San Diego, CA USA - Monday, March 15, 2004 at 02:34:43 (PST)

Folks, Just a quick update here. A while back someone posted a bit of spam here instead of a personal comment. When I found that, I excised it. In doing so, I also managed to screw up the HTML code that makes the comment log work. Thus, comments that were entered over the past several months never went through. I'm still learning how best to use this comment log and it was my mistake not to test the guestbook function after I'd altered the page by removing a comment. The thing works now so you should be free to have at it. Thanks, Madoc
Madoc <>
San Diego, CA USA - Tuesday, February 17, 2004 at 20:11:36 (PST)

Hey, Madoc... If I was the author of the asinine comment, I apologize. I posted a comment that (to my knowledge) never appeared here, and I wondered if I'd said something to offend. I've been an admirer of your website for a while and your essay about Changes affected me deeply. I envy your experiences and your bravery to do the things you have done, and I envy you the bravery to say the things you have said in this essay, and the clarity of thought you express. Keep writing; you type good stuff.
CT USA - Tuesday, February 17, 2004 at 19:46:33 (PST)

I stumbled across your site from a search on Septoplasty. I proceeded to check out the remainder of your site. I am not gay, but nor do I condemn those who are. I would like to say I read your essay and was deeply moved by your frankness and honesty. I agree with your comments about the disregard for the risk of unsafe sex (even the the hetrosexual community) and moreover, the politicization of the disease (AIDS) and call for government intervention to "Find a Cure". Why is no one person responsible for their actions anymore??? This in itsself is ripping our country and our people apart. I wish that a person such as yourself with a Conservative view - and you are indeed conservative from the standpoint of advocating personal responsibility and care for your fellow man rather than self indulgence - could become a leading advocate and spokesperson to and for the community to which you are a part. Believe it or not, we Conservative people here in middle America are not racists, homophobes, etc. We simply want to live aware of the challenges that face our nation and help our people out, but we don't want other peoples views/lifestyle jammed down our throats while being told ours is invalid. In other words, do what you want, live free, be responsible and productive, but don't make it some kind of political issue and demand that I do something about a crisis that you created. I might restate that you did not do that which is why I would gladly give my support to someone like you. You do have a hell of a journey ahead to get the message through to those in your community that you are trying to educate. It is quite unfortunate that "You cannot confuse people with the facts in an argument since their mind is already made up." I wish you luck, health, and hapiness. God be with you!
TJ <>
OH USA - Tuesday, February 10, 2004 at 10:00:16 (PST)

Hi,Nice site, some great content.  <>
- Wednesday, February 04, 2004 at 03:58:58 (PST)

It is always difficult to say the things that no one else will say. I know how hard it is. People will quietly tell you "Thank you for bringing up what others are thinking, but are afraid to say." And yet, they stay quiet, so we (those who do talk) look the part of the "bad guy." Cheers to you Madoc. I have always enjoyed are friendship (no matter how bizarre it might seem at times). I hate the barebacking movement. I hate that people out there do it, and have convinced themselves that they are safe because the others they are barebacking with say that they are negative, and they themselves are negative (at least they were the last time they checked). What sucks the most is the realization that I will very likely be sitting around 10 years from now, remembering all the friends that should have been there with me, but aren't. They same way I did five years ago, the same way I will next week. As long as there is apathy, these feelings will not end, unless I lock them away and try to ignore them. How cold is that? How can I be a loving caring human being if I try not to feel the sadness of loss, and at the same time be confronted with the sadness of future loss. Though your postings are not about it, I feel also related to barebacking, are the logic disruptions brought on by the extensive use of Crystal. Tina is back with a vengance, and she is making sure that people do things they might not normally do. Tina is not an excuse for this barebacking behavior, but when one decides to ride with her, barebacking is usually only a short trip away. I am a compassionate person, and I love my fellow man. I wish you all to love yourselves and realize what you are doing to you, and to me. Thank you for your time.
Mark <>
Montebello, CA USA - Tuesday, August 19, 2003 at 08:53:42 (PDT)

I've actually been visiting your site for over a year. I always felt we could be great freinds, but I'm in a change of career/life/school mode right now and I'm somewhat of hermit. I'm 43 and had long hair up untill 3 mos. ago. I read your comments on the Gay community, and your feelings about having no place in it. What I think you meant was there was no longer a place for you in THAT gay community. When a large group of people (gay or straight) get together for the advancement of a hobby (for lack of a better word)and that interest is a fetish, then ofcourse the disease rate increases 100 fold. I've been to a gay bar about 4 times in my life. There are just as many gay people who share your views about unsafe sex. How stupid can they be? There's a whole world of gay/bi/trans people out there with interests as varied as they are. You chose to make your part in the Gay community one based on sex, but please don't think we all drop our pants at the first sign of being attracted to someone. Don't turn your back on something that is a part of your personna. Yes, there are thousands of gay and bi people out there who are neg. and looking for someone like you. Finding Mr(or Ms) right is no easier in the straight world than in the Gay circle. Please keep up your site. I enjoy it a lot! Peace out, Mike
Mike G <>
San Bernardino, CA USA - Wednesday, July 23, 2003 at 13:52:11 (PDT)

Please add your own comments about the Changes essay. Thank you, Madoc Pope
Madoc Pope <>
San Diego, CA USA - Monday, June 30, 2003 at 16:53:37 (PDT)