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I'm a single forty nine year old bisexual man living in Southern California / San Diego. 

Just a quick note to clear things up - when I say I'm Bi that means I am out and up front about it.  I am not cheating on anyone as I don't cheat, period.  I don't "cat around" and when I commit to someone, I commit to them alone.  So, if your experience with Bi men is different then that's their loss for I am not them and they are not me.

I am a laid back, intense, easy going, driven, honest, reliable, committed, independent, and team player sort of guy. I like taking charge unless someone else is around who can do a better job of leading than I.  I've no time for fools but, having been there myself, I can appreciate how anyone can have bad day or two in a row.  I've been around the block a few times now, but I'm happy when I find new things on each lap. I'm quiet and outspoken, serious and fun loving. Orderly and spontaneous. If all this seems paradoxical, you're right. But then, so is life and so am I.

I'm an intelligent guy and proud of what I have accomplished with that.  I have been very active in the San Diego leather community through my involvement with Club X San Diego and LeatherFest.  I was one of the founders of Club X and have been involved in the leather/ SM/ fetish scene in general for over twenty years.

I got my start back in DC.  I came out in ‘82 and really dove in during the Summer of ‘84 when I was working as a bouncer at Badlands. Considering the general state of safer sex awareness at the time and the number of guys I played with, I am truly amazed that I am not only still HIV Negative - but that I am even alive, period!  I am both though and intend on staying both for some time to come!

I started getting into the leather world by about ‘86 or so and really started going deeper by the following year.  It was also at about that time that I discovered I was bi.  I moved out of DC to Atlanta in ‘89 because I wanted to see more of the world than that which was visible from the within the Beltway.  After about eight months in Atlanta I left for even greener pastures, landing in San Diego in May of ‘90. That is where I have lived since then and it is my place in the sun.

San Diego also provides me access to many more opportunities than I could have found in Atlanta and is a helluva lot more laid back and less uptight than DC ever will be.  I travel up to LA an SF quite often to partake in the delights of those cities.  I wish we had more of that down here as I would prefer it in my back yard and not someone else's.  However, a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do.

While I'm good at speaking to groups and can easily handle myself in public places, I would much rather be hangin’ with a few of my friends in private settings.  Back in the early 90’s I had started enjoying the company of a circle of friends that made for some really great times.  We all were close to each other and all enjoyed each others company.  Over the years we have all pretty much gone our separate ways but are still good friends whenever we come across each other.  I would like to reestablish such a close circle again.  Friends to go watch a movie with, friends to go drinking with, friends just to hang with.  You get the idea.


If you would like to learn more about me – just ask!   Drop me a line and we’ll see what happens.  I can be reached
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Until later then,


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